CANCER – Gaining Emotional Intelligence

by Barry Kerr, Evolutionary Astrologer

  • Dates:           June 21 – July 20
  • Ruled by:     The Moon
  • Element:      Water

Though true for everyone, the following information will feel more relevant to you if your sun, north node, Chiron and/or a group of other planets are in Cancer on your birth chart.

What Is Cancer’s Spiritual Intention?

Through the first quarter of the zodiac, we establish and ground the individual self into the physical world and begin to turn our attention outward. We then notice others and our need to feel connection and belonging. Our inner Moon cries “Oh Cancer! – I need love”.

Our inner Moon is our emotional self. Feeling, knowing, and sharing our emotions all fall under the realm of the Moon and Cancer. Because our mother and family are typically our first opportunity to feel nurtured and loved, they are a prominent theme. It is in this stage of development, that we learn how to receive and give love, how to belong to a family and tribe. In a world that appears to be all about separation and survival, establishing a bond of loving care with others is primary to our ego’s ability to remain stable and navigate the challenges that life in the greater world will present. Maintaining healthy emotional bonds with family and tribe are essential survival tools in the physical world.

Learning to swim in the watery lake of emotions and feelings is paramount if we are to succeed in the much greater challenges to the ego that will play out down the road in the intimate and raging rivers of Scorpio and the confusing mysteries of oceanic Pisces. For our ego to eventually transcend the fears that worldly illusions create, we must have at least a taste of the unconditional love that originates from the universal, divine mother source. To whatever extent our earthly mother and family may have channeled such love to us, or not, Cancer and the Moon will repeatedly provide us opportunities to nurture our emotional security and wholeness until we know we are always loved.

When conscious, our Cancer notices and validates feelings, our own and others, without judgment and we feel empathetic, supportive and nurturing. From a foundation of emotional security, we can disclose our feelings and insecurities. We can stay centered in our feelings, not fleeing them, and be comfortable with others’ feelings. Our unconscious Cancer can be overly dependent, clingy, moody, insecure, fearful, stuck in the past, avoiding risks and controlling of others through emotional overreactions.

What needs healing and growth?

Our Cancer ego, if wounded in youth, might feel love was lost, was never given or will never be found. We might believe that the world is not a loving place and whatever love there is will not be given to us. This can lead to a feeling of emptiness, a tendency to sabotage relationships, withdraw when love is given, withdraw the love we give, reach for unattainable partners or overreach in trying to prove we are loveable. Often there is a preoccupation with memories, family and tribal history.

What Can I Do This Month?

To heal and evolve your Cancer self, pay attention to your emotions. Can you allow yourself to feel and share them? Do you even know what they are telling you? Or do you avoid them, stuff them, “postpone” them? Can you be present to “negative” emotional expression in others without rescuing or fixing? Do you feel unworthy of being loved or giving love? Is that guilt?

Things to do

Give yourself time to feel whatever you feel. Cry. Cry some more. Throw some pillows around if you feel angry. Scream out loud. Let whatever is there come to the surface, without need for analysis. Just let it be. Share some tender feelings with someone you trust. Notice other people’s emotions more and ask about them.

Let me know what you think of this blog. Or ask me a question.

Barry Kerr, a certified soul-based astrologer, has over 40 years of experience with an Barry on logo Previewinternational clientele, including many medical professionals and alternative healers. He and Kristine Gay, a licensed psychotherapist, are owners/practitioners Choose Conscious Living in Sedona, AZ. Both have extensive training in soul-guided healing of mind, body, heart and spiritual systems. Barry offers astrology, energy healing and transformational coaching by phone, Zoom, or in person in Sedona. Inquiries are welcome. Visit for more information or email Barry at

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